Except it isn’t referencing the proposed rule because the proposed rule only applies if the father is not a US citizen or lawful permanent resident.

Y’all still think things are priced according to how much it costs to produce or deliver them?

Idk, if it’s offline it sure seems like meta can’t sell data from it so that’s costing them.

I love lifting heavy because I simply cannot think about anything while under the weight.

The best one so far was sitting down with my spouse and making lists:

• default grocery list
• 2nd list with low effort meal components in case we can’t manage to cook. (A few are kept in the house but this is more for one to pick up for the other in times if need).
• priority chore list, including which ones we need both to keep an eye on because consequences of forgetting are too high, such as making sure credit cards are paid and the foundation drain system is checked.

This means if one of us just can’t the other has a list of things they can take over, they know what can be dropped so they don’t also get overwhelmed, as well as a list of items to grab to help the other meet their needs.

Another one that is very helpful is the ability to pause conversations and come back to them when we’re more able to participate. We agree that conflicts and other serious discussions require us both to be able to listen and understand. If we can’t do that, we are wasting time, getting stressed out, etc. We let the other know, and maybe throw it in the calendar to make sure we don’t forget.

This is not a forum about Autism this is a forum for those with Autism.

I love this so much. It’s nice to have a place where there is at least a chance someone will understand what I’m posting about/my way of viewing something.

My mom is coming to visit for a week starting today. She does not know about my autism diagnosis (but does know about my ADHD diagnosis I got a few years back) and does not know I am on leave. I’m not planning on telling her, I don’t want to have to manage her reaction.

Like me, she’s the most “normal” of her siblings. We both have siblings that have vaguely described learning disabilities, according to however they were handled at the time (70s, 90s, 2000s). So if course anything she struggles with is because she’s “messy” or “lazy”. This bullshit got passed down to my gen and I’m doing my best to undo it and live a life that fits me, not the one others expect of me.

It’s going to be a hard week because she feels hurt by my unmasked behavior (I’m the poster child for parallel play lol) and thinks it means she isn’t welcome. My partner helped me pick a careful selection of activities including a day at a spa that had a silent zone (👑) so fingers crossed this goes well lol. I know she’s trying, it just sucks.

Apparently it’s a revival of a previous mayor’s tradition, but from 2003. When I first read about the tradition I thought it would be much older lol.

On the one hand I want to gag at the thought of a suit being in the pool but on the other I love and miss public pools. I really took for granted the outdoor pools in my home town (not NY) even though I used them regularly. I thought they were normal 😭

Can you finish the sentence in your title? I think I know the answer but want to make sure I’m not guessing wrong!

Yes.

I woke up to a push notification for ticket presale for Sonic Live. I feel personally attacked lol.

No hate for Sonic, I’m just not the right demographic for it to have been a part of my youth so I lacked exposure.

Literally me except I was determined to find legal documents related to our property I was told didn’t exist. I found them at 4 am lol.

Not intentionally, and I’m not sure I did miss it.

I have a daily pill holder thing that has individual containers for the days that come out of the main holder. When I went to take my Monday dose I noticed one of the daily containers by the sink. I may have taken the Sunday dose out, went to get water and left them there, or I may have gotten my water and taken the dose out of the original pill containers. I was refilling the daily dose container at the time and it’s not unusual for me to fill Sunday and leave it rather than leaving it empty.

That’s not something I can just “do better” at.

I do?

I just want you to be aware that Garmin’s stress measures physical stress NOT mental. Having food increases physical stress as your body needs to work to digest, but it can also lower mental stress.

I don’t think this is entirely accurate. It’s a measure of physiological stress. Burnout (as far as I understand it) is the point where the physiological impact of mental stress starts impacting your ability to live a normal life.

I’m not shilling for the brand or anything (which is why I didn’t specify what it was) but from their website:

Stress levels (0–100) are estimated by the Garmin Human Performance Lab engine, primarily using a combination of HR and HRV data. This data is recorded by the optical heart rate sensor on the back of your device.

Divided into sympathetic and parasympathetic branches, your ANS [autonomic nervous system] regulates your physiological systems to best match the expected demands of your current situation. The sympathetic branch dominates when it’s time for action. Your pulse quickens, blood vessels dilate, digestion is interrupted, and adrenaline flows. This is sometimes referred to as the fight-or-flight response. In quieter times, the parasympathetic branch is more dominant, and your body enters what is referred to as rest-and-digest mode. This is when your body can repair itself and replenish resources depleted during more hectic times.

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Stress levels are not measured by your Garmin device during physical activity because the strain of physical activity itself can be considered stressful. The impact of physical activity is best measured and understood in other ways. Public speaking and running up a flight of stairs can both send your heart racing, but the underlying reasons why are fundamentally different.

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You can configure select Garmin devices to alert you when your stress level is unusually high. The alert encourages you to take a moment to relax, and the device will prompt you to begin a guided breathing exercise with the relaxation breathing timer.

Elsewhere:

Food intake, as well as stimulants like caffeine, has no impact on your Body Battery.

Anecdotally, people have shared that alcohol or eating greasy heavy meals or large meals before bed have raised their score. In my examples above I ate more on Monday (lower stress day) than I did on Sunday. I also know I took my stimulant meds in Monday but think I forgot Sunday.

I understand that this is all an approximation and wasn’t even really why I got the watch to begin with. I needed to replace my Fenix and didn’t need all the features so I got a much simpler version that had a HRM. I had previously used a chest strap because I was (unknowingly) being very autistic about triathlon and wanted data to improve my swimming. The stress/body battery/ HRV is interesting to me because the approach my therapist takes is based on polyvagal theory so outside of this I know I am displaying signs of being in flight/freeze way more often than is needed or healthy.

I do box breathing and tapping (as a form of EMDR) when I have panic attacks (rare, but they do happen). The problem I’m trying to deal with is that I can’t tell when my body is in a stress response if it’s not uncontrolled panic.

The gardening when my body was showing stress was very much brain disengagement. No screens, over the ear headphones (off, just to drown out some of the noise), pausing to breathe the fragrant air deeply or appreciate bird song and wind chimes. In contrast, I was doomscrolling when my body was showing signs of rest.

I guess I’m not sure if it being backwards is a symptom of chronic stress or if it’s something I need to adapt to.

That response rules, I’m def going to use it in the future 🫡

Lol they take it as degree of disability rather than spectrum of differences because they can’t comprehend that anything other than the NT way of being exists.

The lightbulb moment for fidgets was my wedding rings and I guess my iron ring. I got my iron ring a few years before I got married and I was always tapping it on hard surfaces when I was thinking but part of the whole thing is that it’s supposed to remind you of your obligations as an engineer so I thought that was normal?

I would constantly tap my wedding rings with my thumbs of the same hand and joke that they give me my strength. My partner is my rock but the secret sauce is the stim lol.

I think your actual question is about what purpose built fidget toys we like? My current fave is something like this:

It’s hard enough being a 40+ lady type whose job it is to argue on construction sites without bursting jell filled stress balls all over yourself lol. I like that this one will not explode. I honestly dgaf that it’s ‘childlike’, I’d love to have someone make a shitty remark to my face. I’ve got the “say the vilest shit imaginable impulsively” autism.