Bit of a shower thought: Outside of limited circumstances, like interviews or therapy, nobody is really expected to give you honest feedback on how you come across.
This sucks. I’ve been told I come across as unfriendly once, but I have no idea if I was just nervous and tired at the time. I still cherish that one moment almost 10 years ago when someone told me I was funny in some corporate team building bs.
Now, I could ask friends and family, but I believe they would probably not tell me the full, honest truth. After all, they (hopefully) like me and I would probably avoid being too harsh to everyone but very close people in private.
At the same time, I know plenty of people who really should get some feedback, who probably believe they are funny while everyone is bored and annoyed and hopes they talk a little less and the like.
So, are there socially accepted ways to get feedback on how you come across?
I realize that people are strange, relationships are hard, P!=NP and anime is not real. Still, it would be nice to have.
I understand, one can manufacture a playbook to analyze an individual, just like the one you provided for my two questions.
Still, the problem remains, as it is with most human interactions, there’s no objective answer, it all varies based on human nature and the environment involved.
Indeed It is an indication, but it does not guarantee an absolute answer like: Helium is heavier than Hydrogen; a fact that can’t be disputed.
True, you can do that, but if one is asking for another’s opinion, it is hard to evaluate it yourself, there’s bias all around us, more so when we are not aware of it.
I understand your approach, and maybe I’m being a bit pedantic, but I can’t see how this isn’t a really complex problem, with no exact solution.
Well, it is a mind game, ultimately. We can never know what someone else is really thinking, at least with our current tech (which is why first strike is always so powerful), so it boils down to probabilities determined by track record. I guess this is why the Internet has made for such an interesting cultural time, because it’s allowed never-before-seen anonymity and the brutal honesty that comes with it. All I can say is that you have to learn to be content with probabilities and statistics, because trying to fit almost any aspect of human culture and perspectives into a nice, clean periodic table will leave you with more exceptions than rules!
Or you could consult an LLM, I guess…
I agree