• nickwitha_k (he/him)@lemmy.sdf.org
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      8 hours ago

      This is not mutually exclusive with the statement, from my perspective. Many have trauma responses that do not involve being shitty to others but may involve shutting down, self-isolating, etc. that are still maladaptive and unhelpful, without necessarily being hurtful to others.

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          5 hours ago

          It’s not whining, but maybe being concerned about someone you love, care about or just having empathy with someone hurting themselves.

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            5 hours ago

            Why would people be *complaining about how they vent if it’s healthy?

            This post is either trying to excuse inexcusable behavor, or making up a senario where people are shamed for healthy habits.