There are a lot of tanky posts coming from lemmy.ml. Their whole purpose seems to be to troll and spread their bullshit far and wide. They are nearly as bad as the alt-right. They argue in bad faith and celebrate authoritarian oppression. The beehaw mods might want to consider defederating.
Yep, I’ve had similar experiences. For as much as we believe Reddit was/is toxic, the toxicity here can be a bit on the heavy side. Like you. I’m still hanging around because I really want the fediverse to succeed and I’d like for Lemmy to be a big part of it.