• BJW@lemmus.org
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    3 days ago

    Leave your phone on do-not-disturb, and inform anyone you give your number to that the phone is always on DND so they shouldn’t expect you to answer or have an immediate response.

    Never debate anything with strangers on the Internet. It’s just a waste of time, as in the best case scenario nothing actually changes. It’s not worth the time, frustration, emotional toll or being the target of insults. Just tell anyone looking to argue with you that they’re right, that they’re always right without exception, and then walk away.

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      I enjoy debating things online sometimes. I get satisfaction from laying out my argument for what I think, and often it helps me identify and challenge my own hypocrisies. I don’t expect to be able to change the other person’s mind, but it has helped me change my own beliefs for the better. And I like to think it can persuade others who hadn’t given it much thought before.

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        It really depends on who the Internet randomly assigns you to debate with. Yes, you can get a knowledgeable, polite and pragmatic person who will help you find flaws in your own logic. More often than not, though, you’ll face off against people who will call you a cultist, say you’re an idiot, question your abilities, and/or tell you to fuck off.

        That’s why I think debating is better done in person, with people you know at least tangentially. They’re less likely to be raging jerks, and if they are, you can avoid them in the future. On the Internet, those jerks will follow you everywhere on the platform and hound you.

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      3 days ago

      I’ve turned off read receipts on signal and feel so much less pressure to instantly reply to things and always be available

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          On signal, under the privacy settings you have these options. It means I can’t see when people have read my messages but they can’t see when I’ve read theirs. They’ll know because I’ll respond when I have time. It stopped me cowering from my messages and keeping them hanging around as notifications.