I’ve been loving pi.ai for this, it seem to have far more emotional intelligence than any others I’ve tried

So, just to clarify, you’ve seen it many times?

I think lately it’s been nice to see more representation, however I wish there was better emphasis and explanation on why ASD individuals do or don’t do certain things.

For us with ASD, we immediately understand why certain behaviors are exhibited. We also understand why certain things are said, why people with ASD might get quiet in some situations, stimming, and more.

To others, it’s so easy to draw conclusions that the individual is stupid or has bad intentions, when the reality is polar opposite or more complex than that.

For example, with Love On The Spectrum, ASD individuals on a date will appear to:

• Suddenly lose interest
• Not take any initiative
• Unashamedly allow themselves to get distracted
• Say things that seem very inconsiderate

Someone that doesn’t understand ASD might assume the person with ASD is a bad, rude, inconsiderate jerk, maybe intentionally trying to act this way toward the other person. However, someone that does understand will immediately know that the ASD individual has:

1. Gone through an observations checklist and considered all factors related to a potential relationship with this person
2. Figured out exactly what they do and don’t like about this person’s interests and behaviors
3. Methodically determined that the person they are dating will not be a good fit for them

Once someone with ASD has already figured that out, it’s a waste of time, energy, and emotions (as well as a waste of the other person’s) to continue talking with them, and it’s time to move on. It’s a completely different, highly-practical mindset that—although it doesn’t always consider how the other person feels—is well-meaning and has no bad intentions towards the other person.

Thanks! I’ll definitely do this

There’s a huge difference between a tag bothering you throughout the day, and a tag completely destroying your ability to function.

Yes, this made me want to commit arson. Thanks for reminding me.

I think it’s all about how you define and measure “best.” A lot of us are subconsciously using other people’s definitions of “best” and throwing it on ourselves. That doesn’t always work, and here’s why:

A Prius can technically join NASCAR, but should it? No—it’s better used for saving gas. There’s other cars out there that are built for racing (but not too gas-efficient). And neither a Prius or a NASCAR car should drive through a tornado, but we have extreme weather cars made for that purpose.

One big problem in our society is that people who feel successful tend to project their own experiences on others without taking the time to put themselves in other people’s shoes. “What do you mean? It was so easy for me, if you can’t do it then you must be choosing to fail at life and therefore you’re a bad person.” Then, those that don’t feel successful tend to take on this standard set by others who seem to be more successful than themselves. The problem with this is that everyone is in a different place with strengths, skill levels, growth, life circumstances, and more that make things require more or less effort from us.

Everyone’s 100% is different from person to person and with different life circumstances. For me growing up, I was constantly running at 150% overdrive which was someone else’s relaxed 75%. You can only go so long at 150%, and it’s even worse when you’re giving that much but believe and were told that you are only giving 75%. On the contrary, my 75% effort writing code or analyzing every ingredient on products that I buy would be 150% for someone else.

My point is, maybe “Doing appropriate work” like you said is actually “Doing my best work.” And maybe we need to pay attention to others a little bit more so we can see that.

Dang I wish we had movies that thoroughly explored possible devastating outcomes of having artificial intelligence make executive decisions for real people

2, but every city has a cat problem so I could probably find one in the trash for you

Cats are legit therapeutic if you don’t have one I will find you and give you one

They were a donation platform for community projects and open-source projects. Their main thing was that all donations and expenses by an entity are public, so there’s a lot of transparency with who and where the money goes that you donate. Really sad to lose them

The post article is from the umbrella organization Open Collective Inc.

Here’s the announcement from the Open Collective Foundation. There’s also Open Collective Europe which will not be dissolving.

Originally I remember OCF partially blaming OCI’s decisions as some of the reason OCF couldn’t be sustainable, but I can’t seem to find that anymore

It’s so weird reading both sides of the 2 entities involved in this. Seems like there’s some missing communication between the two

If you block an instance through the Lemmy UI directly, it only blocks all content posted to those instances. If a user from the blocked instance comments or posts in a community on a different instance, it’ll still show up for you

I choose the middle one

I think one of the most helpful things for me has been changing the internal dialog that has been nailed into me since i was young—“you’re not enough,” “you lazy #%^*,” and a whole slew of things repeating in my mind when i disappoint others, am misunderstood, or can’t seem to handle/understand something that seems so basic to others.

Genuine encouragement that validates where you are right now (without any pressure to perform or do better) is i think one of the most powerful tools for us with ASD. Sadly, because of the social/career ladders and the way our society operates, a lot of us don’t have that encouraging voice on the outside to help us out. Many of the voices in our lives have misunderstood us and assumed our intentions were malicious when the reality was we just think and act on another level than others do.

If you are able to put yourself in an environment or with others that understand you and encourage you, do whatever you can to do so. If you are unable to do that right now, do what you can to practice changing all the negative words that play on repeat in our heads and beat us down.

Think about it—if you want a flower to grow, you aren’t just gonna beat it into submission and yell at it to do better, right? You give it food, water, and sun. You have to give it time and treat it kindly and gently. It’s the same way with a young kid who’s trying to learn how to walk.

The reality is, we have all given it our best effort even if it doesn’t show on the outside. That deserves to be noticed, uplifted, and appreciated. And i think when you do so, when you allow yourself moments to simply exist the way you are, you’ll finally see yourself start to grow in ways you never thought possible.

Oh nice, they cured my autism with lemongrass last year which is pretty cool

Thankfully you don’t need an account to use. It does look like they store anonymized messages to “make the service better” according to their terms. Honestly, I don’t know how you’d improve a service like that without some sense of how your users are actually using it

Agreed. I’ve dabbled in it some but I’m no expert, maybe someone else could chime in. I just haven’t found anything that works quite as well as Pi yet and it was really intriguing to say the least. You can even talk to it verbally back and forth like a phone call

That’s a huge concern for me too. They do explicitly state in the Privacy Policy that your data will never be sold or shared with third parties for advertising purposes, but that only means so much. It would be nice to see a full list of exact companies/services they use behind-the-scenes. Regardless, I really look forward to the day I can self-host something this powerful myself