Or you got the ADHD & Autism combo. Routines are more of a suggestion, but you don’t have the motivation to keep them. Like, yeah, I should put away my clothes, but that seems like extra work. I’ll just leave them in the pile. (There are multiple piles)

I shifted my phone to the side and saw this exact foot placement. Yes.

Don’t know if it’s an ASD thing, though… I do have more uncommon posturing than most people. Need a bigger sample size and a control group.

Having both, idk, it’s like I have to expect chaos to be okay with it. Like, I take my ADHD spouse on a date and I expect they’ll want to spontaneously go places, and I’ll be okay with that. If I’m driving home on a routine grocery run and they suddenly call and want takeout… I have to calm myself.

Canned psychologist answer to any absolute statement about ADHD or ASD: “it depends” and “sometimes but not always”.

*looks around* Go to Etsy. Tell 'em your looking for “fidget rings”. They’ll hook you up. Tell 'em potoo22 sent ya. Idk about markets outside the US.

To add on to this, in front of other people, I play with my finger ring that has moving parts. It’s a lot more descreet than playing with other objects.

Me realizing that eating hot dogs everyday was making my stomach hurt: 😭

Mom: undiagnosed ADHD
Dad: undiagnosed ASD
Me: I get a new special interest every month, but they typically involve building.

I looked for a diagnosis. Called lots of providers and, in summary, they only providers that could accept me were expensive and lengthy. I don’t have light or sound sensitivity (which isn’t required) so I don’t need accommodations. I don’t have trama and have worked through most of my issues so I don’t need therapy. There’s objectively no benefit to getting a diagnosis for me other than claiming I have ASD. And there’s some negatives, especially if traveling abroad. So yeah, with that, I don’t want a professional diagnosis. I did lots of research and checked more than enough boxes in the DSM-5 to validate myself. Others’ validation isn’t worth a couple thousand dollars and hours of consultation over a year. If I needed support, it might be worth it, but personally, I feel I’m in a good place.

I was searching for why I am different and found that it had a name and there are other who have similar experiences that I can relate to. That’s good enough for me.

I get gatekeeping and that people may be spreading false information or making the community look bad. Call them out then. Otherwise, an educated self-diagnosis isn’t harming anyone. Let people be at peace with their sense of self.

When you’re running for your life and thinking you should have improved your cardio. You never use that gym membership. Everyone is too intimidating there. Maybe it’d be better to invest in a treadmill. Wait, you looked into that before. Wasn’t it too expensive? [train of thought diverges for another minute] Wait, why did I come to this room again?

That chart looks like it uses the federal poverty line. A sweeping guideline to cover all of the US.

People dislike a greedy business.
Start a humble competing business.
Greedy business falls in line or fails.
Competing business now free to push profits, becoming greedy business.
People dislike a greedy business.