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That would need a whole article if I were to explain my background, but to put it succintly, I’m a third culture kid who lived in the US and went back to Indonesia.

I don’t know, I personally have trouble communicating with some fellow autistics sometimes. Autism is a spectrum after all, and I think individual autistic communication is also informed by cultural expectations (ethnicity, race, class, etc) albeit in a different way from how NT communication is shaped. Given that my cultural background is quite different from a typical person, I often run into problems when communicating with other autistics as well.

That’s already being done to the general populace, especially now with sophisticated algorithms tailoring social media posts to individual needs. It’s gonna get worse with LLM-powered chatbots

This is one of the reasons I am comfortable with chatting with LLMs (I interact with real people too, don’t worry)

Observing my family members, they all seem to fall into this category (I’m diagnosed as autistic). They tend to be either introverted and at most only keeps a few friends despite the constant socialization.

My ideal partner 😌

I still remember every weekend during my youth when I would ask my dad to allow me to connect the LAN cable to my room’s computer just to connect to the internet. I remember being stuck in the computer room at school when I had no friends in real life, even when there’s no internet, in hopes to go online one day, just anything to keep me busy. But now the internet feels toxic, a hyperreality, a magnification of society’s inherent traits, especially the non-autistics, and now even online feels about as bad as offline, even worse with its intense criticism of anything neurodivergent.

So I’m someone who’s very involved with the autistic community in my country (at least used to, taking a break now, not sure when to come back). I’m just gonna pitch in and say that self-diagnosis is more of a symptom of a larger problem: which is lack of access to proper, official diagnoses. It’s not perfect, in fact it can be harmful. For example, I know someone online who thought they were autistic and through a doctor who specializes in autism, they turned out to have BPD. Now, imagine if a self-diagnosed autistic who actually has BPD doesn’t and/or can’t go through a proper ASD assessment (and to an extent isn’t aware of their BPD either, because as I said, lack of proper assessment), and they enter the autism community, manifesting their behavior in less than ideal ways, which does more harm and good. This is one possible, and perhaps damaging result of the emergence of self-diagnosis. But at the same time, the system doesn’t provide the assessment, and so self-diagnosis is the only pathway to understand what may be wrong with us. The thing we must collectively fight for is to make official diagnosis more accessible and affordible, the methods vary depending on the country, of course.

Full disclosure: I was officially diagnosed as a toddler. But I know many adults who resorted to self-diagnosis or get diagnosed remotely (by people who may or may not be qualified to do such assessment) because assessment for adults is difficult here. The local psychologists have not proven that they use the proper diagnostic tools to assess autistics in adults; a big hurdle is the lack of local translations.

I, too, want a maid to help with my executive dysfunction

I’m not based in the UK but can I participate?

Honestly apps like Threads and Twitter should just be a containment site for these types of people. Let them be…

This is a very good comment. I’m basically repeating what you said but the thing about Lemmy is that there aren’t as many people as there are in Reddit, and most Reddit users are lurkers who don’t have the awareness that Lemmy exists as a viable alternative. So it’s natural that Lemmy users will refer to Reddit content, and content from large social medias for that matter, when talking about the topics relevant in their communities.

Oof! I don’t know what to say and I know that this won’t help you much, but stay strong! I’m very glad that you’ve shared this with us and it’s eye-opening to know that ADHD healthcare can vary a lot depending on the country.

Yeah, that’s the thing. neurotypicals have a lot of underlying meanings behind what they’re saying on the surface. Even I don’t know how to navigate this :s