My fiance was diagnosed recently but we didn’t have insurance to get started with treatment. Just the diagnosis has helped him figure out what parts of him aren’t just “not trying hard enough”. But to be honest, I’m really heartened when you talk about a clean house because I need that for my own anxiety and it takes him so much effort that it’s hard to ask it of him.
Yeah - we set up chores on a Google task list (which is what we already use). I tried to make each room its own thing (and only have 1-2 tasks per room). He also uses a white board so I add things there too. Good note of not adding it all at once.
Living together is super challenging. (It’s overall going well. Im just grumpy atm.) I hope that medication and/or therapy will help make things easier for him.