In many emotional regulation frameworks (DBT, mindfulness) they talk about the recognition and pause as the first two steps. Noticing you’re feeling a certain way, and then learning to take a quick pause from doing anything - “one, two, three”. That gives you a small space within which you can then learn how to respond differently than instinct. Probably she’s not old enough to have learned those two steps yet. (Many adults haven’t either!) So maybe start there. Just “recognize” first, then “pause” after she’s learned the first one. It may take awhile, and that’s ok. Once she’s learned them they will be very powerful for many different things.
In many emotional regulation frameworks (DBT, mindfulness) they talk about the recognition and pause as the first two steps. Noticing you’re feeling a certain way, and then learning to take a quick pause from doing anything - “one, two, three”. That gives you a small space within which you can then learn how to respond differently than instinct. Probably she’s not old enough to have learned those two steps yet. (Many adults haven’t either!) So maybe start there. Just “recognize” first, then “pause” after she’s learned the first one. It may take awhile, and that’s ok. Once she’s learned them they will be very powerful for many different things.