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Cake day: June 29th, 2023

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  • Used to work in digital design. By pure happenstance the foundational initial team on a major project was all women and we recognised that wasn’t a good balance in terms of external perception but also in terms of getting different perspectives on design approaches.

    We managed to recruit some great blokes, but they were hard to find. So many of the new dudes didn’t work out because it was so obvious how inferior they perceived us women to be. Very few of them had the skills to warrant any level of arrogance, let alone full blown superiority complex.

    It was disappointing.






  • It’s really obvious when they’re having a go at cisgender white women about makeup or certain clothes or haircuts or body types. You always see the same comments explaining to women that they ackshually prefer ‘natural looks’ or less revealing clothing or long hair or ‘something to hold on to’.

    It’s all through a lens of ‘why do you make choices about yourself that don’t improve your appeal to me, someone who wants to fuck you’.

    That there are women that completely reject all those notions or don’t seek their opinions (women who are trans, women who aren’t hetero, women who reject traditional feminine looks, women who excel in their careers or physical sports) simply doesn’t compute with these people’s view of what women are.

    The more malicious parts of that mindset lead to that push you’re talking about. We as women are still just something that needs to validate its existence. Any deviation from that is viewed as something that should never have existed at all.