I married my wife and later we were talking (she knew I was autistic and she has ADHD) and realized she’s probably on the spectrum too, just in different ways than I

To be honest, it works out well, since our characteristics are complementary. Whether that’s down to being neurodivergent or not, I can’t say.

My ex I dated for 5 years before that had ADHD too, now that I think about it…. And my best friend realized he’s autistic last year, and we’ve been friends over a decade… Maybe neurodivergent attracts neurodivergent?

I’m not sure what you mean. What aspects of it?

I cope with loud noises with AirPods Pro with noise cancellation.

I cope with communication issues by practicing phrases and explanations.

I cope with hyperfixation by setting schedules and alarms.

What do you need help with?

While I can’t relate to not enjoying lyrics in songs, I have an adjacent perspective. I love listening to each instrument on its own, like focusing on each one, but at the same time. Sounds odd, but it’s like if I close my eyes and let the music wash over me, every piece of the song plays as if individually, yet I can hear them all at once, and it is beautiful. Additionally, I like to think of vocals as their own instrument. Less of a separate thing from the instruments and instead just a different one.

This last one probably stems from my love of metal music, since often screaming and/or yelling is put in there, which means several words in a row that don’t have variations in pitch. It’s almost like “vocal percussion” in that sense.

Keep trying! I did on a whim and I’m now married to her, specifically because I didn’t respond like most people did (due to aforementioned autism)

I don’t see it as a disability for me. My successes in life have mostly been due to my autism, and while I have downsides, I see it as a worthwhile trade.

Sensory Processing Disorder on the other hand…