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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • I mean, be conscious of your needs, but anyone saying “you’re too sensitive” is pretty much universally an unhealthy person to be around unless there’s some real nuance to the situation. It means they’re dismissing your emotional reactions as unreasonable or otherwise not worth respecting and that’s basically abuse 101.

    Find people who get you and accept you as you are. If there’s something about yourself that you struggle with, work on coping techniques and the like, but ultimately anyone who doesn’t respect you is going to abuse or hurt you even if it’s unintentional on their part. It’s why we’re several times more likely to be abused than neurotypical people: we’re constantly told that we’re being unreasonable and we tend to be far more accepting of others than they are of us, often ignoring abuse because we’re taught to internalize self-hatred from a young age. At least that’s my perspective as an autistic person with C-PTSD and a heck of a lot of trauma related to this sort of thing exactly.

    The correct response to someone seeming sensitive or expressing a boundary is acceptance and respect, possibly followed by discussion on those terms when it’s not urgently in need of addressing. Ignoring boundaries is almost always either abusive or neglectful. Slips are going to happen, of course, but “you’re too sensitive” is an intentional attempt to dismiss your boundaries, not a slip barring exceptional circumstance.




  • Trillium is my personal choice for self-hosted notes. I haven’t really had issues with using it on mobile, but I also just tend to put the stuff I think of when I’m out and about into a single note that I periodically go through and reorganize. It’s been good to me so far, and it has all of the features I really need. If I need something fancier (or public-facing), I toss it in BookStack instead. Then again, I don’t use either of them for business (mostly for tabletop RPG stuff and instructions to friends/family about using the other stuff I self-host), so if that’s your application, I have no clue how it holds up.



  • The Vulkan vs DirectX thing isn’t an absolute in terms of performance. In addition, it’s worth keeping in mind that Windows is horrifically bloated with unoptimized “features” and can use up to 8GB of RAM at idle plus 10-50% of your CPU at idle depending on your configuration as well as which unnecessary services are bugged in that update. That in and of itself makes a huge difference; my W10 install was using 8GB of RAM and nearly 80% of my CPU on system services for almost a month straight before they finally fixed the bug and reduced it to 2-4 GB + maybe 15-25% depending on the day, meaning I was getting huge stutter playing games as simple as Old School RuneScape. My Tumbleweed install on my much worse specs-wise laptop, on the other hand, used effectively zero CPU and less than 1GB of RAM at idle (fairly confident on the RAM thing but I’d have to check for exact numbers).