To be honest: If you don’t have the deeper technical knowledge to implement some secure form of forum / BBS or something like that and if you are dependent on the advice from strangers on the net and LLMs AND you are currently living in a nation where something like that may lead to an “accident”… just don’t. A warzone isn’t the right place to learn to fight.

Or you raise your kids the way that they see gender as a complete societal construct and simply don’t give a fucking shit about labels