Thank you, this is useful advice

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I’m very ignorant here — what kind of discrimination in health care are we talking about? What does that look like, like the doctor just doesn’t take you seriously?

Thirded

I assume 3M makes those inserts for their hooks because it’s difficult to mass-produce cheap hollow objects with a firm flat back.

We don’t have that problem.

I have stuck all manner of things to the wall with command strips — power strips, 3D-printed hooks, boxes… whatever has a flat back works fine.

A complaint is a statement that there is a problem.

There really are a lot of people who think it’s in general wrong/unpleasant/to be avoided, to say anything negative ever. Only positive, mood-building statements are socially acceptable. This seems to be a regional thing and quite controversial; look up “toxic positivity”.

From your description it could be your friend is in that camp but I doubt it; sounds to me more like your friend might mean something anywhere along the line from, “you say no to activities when I want you to say yes” through “I’m surprised how often you’re tired” to “you seem tired more often than is healthy; something is wrong”