I’ve noticed that there seems to be an emphasis on being extremely serious at all times, as if every single comment is a PhD dissertation being evaluated or something. There’s like this weird, subtle one upmanship about every little thing and a lot of people are very nitpicky and judgmental. It kind of takes the fun out of being on here, TBH. Or am I the only one experiencing this?

  • velma@sh.itjust.works
    123·
    6 days ago

    You’re ignoring how many women, femmes, trans, enbies, and POC are on Reddit.

    Reddit’s population size is going to naturally make it way more diverse than Lemmy for a long time still.

    • CapuccinoCoretto@lemmy.world
      7·
      6 days ago

      Not ignoring. They have a larger audience, but I felt the general community was more welcomed, and openly themselves here edit: in non-specialized subs.

      • velma@sh.itjust.works
        82·
        6 days ago

        Ah, there were quite a few great subreddits I was involved in that were incredibly diverse and friendly. I miss those spaces, though I’ve found a couple of communities on Lemmy with similar feel.

        I’ve found Lemmy quite harsh and exclusionary for women, so maybe my experience has just been different than yours.

          • Whats_your_reasoning@lemmy.world
            3·
            5 days ago

            The only thing I miss about Reddit was a secret women’s only sub that you could only access by invitation. At one point I got invited and, my god, it was an amazing little space. I posted things there that would’ve been flooded by pervs if I’d posted them on the mainstream site. Like a picture of someone floating in bliss and saying something like, “How my boobs feel when I go swimming.”

            The Women Only community here is good, but I really wish it were more private. Although I haven’t seen as many guys getting weird about comments from my perspective on Lemmy as I did on Reddit, it would be wonderful to have an actual private space where we didn’t have to worry about guys coming in, not reading the rules, and commenting anyway.