Was talking about home economics as a school subject in another thread and i realised that for me personally, taking “Food Tech” (cookery gcse) would have impacted me pretty negatively, even though generally speaking GCSEs don’t have much of an effect on the rest of your life or education.
So i wonder if anyone else has similar revelations? My post title is also phrased more openly than that, so it doesn’t have to be school specific, but i am mainly interested in things from the teenage time period.
Another choice i made in HS, for instance: i remember being really glad to have a medium-size group of friends in high school, but in retrospect they were terrible people and i realise that there would have been huge benefits to spending more time alone and in the library - yes, i genuinely look back and wish i studied more, lol. Something which I'm always told never happens.
This one “affects me as an adult” because i ended up entering adulthood with several friends determined to force their personality to be cool, relying on manosphere influencers to determine how they should behave; a lot of these people i didn’t want to know in the first place.
Installing Linux turned my life towards computers and now I’m doing a compsci degree
Positively impact? Not much that I’m aware of. Negatively impact? I mean the bullying caused so mental mental damage that it’s still affecting me and making life harder 13 years later. I’m now getting help from a therapist and have been for the past year, but the road to normalcy is long and rough.
I don’t think getting bullied is a choice. I was bullied for a while until I started wresting, then I beat the shit out of three kids and the same time who continued to try to and no one said a negative word to me again.
Ended up becoming a SpEd teacher for behavior disorder, autism, and emotionally disturbed kids. I know it’s not easy, but you have to just not give a shit about what other people think besides your support group. Like close friends, family, ect. Everyone just wants to tear you down because they’re unhappy so fuck them and their opinions.
I resolved to go to college out of state. I did and it went well.
depends on the college you went to. i went into the reviews of my college(yelp) at least most colleges got bad reviews and 1 chick gave her own experience she thought the state uni wasnt good enough for her, so she transferred out to ucla, she had a much better opportunities than her friends who stayed(they all struggled after graduating). i can see that, because they were willing to push people through and out as quickly as possible(offering no workshops or warnings how different degrees are very deficient in the job market despite being a very popular one) and not informing people of independant studies or lab work. they want as many incoming freshmans as possible to milk them for all that tuition, and state funding. no wonders by covid, at least the end of the lockdown they were STRUGGLING to get freshmans enrolled in most of the state universities around my region. last i heard they started to giving exceptions to HS students so they can enroll asap into state colleges. the more resources/prestigious seems to have more resources devoted to post-grad experience(externships/labwork).
I made good grades and got multiple scholarships that gave me a free ride through undergrad plus enough to buy my first gaming PC. If not for that then I’d be owing 60k in debt instead of the 20k. I also would have missed out on the PC hobby.
i heard alot of scholarship and grants get unawareded, so alot of students dont know its out there. part of its, HS fault for not guiding them towards those things. and you dont need to be a top student to get them.
I view life as a deterministic “chain reaction” of current events following from past events and me just being along for the ride so I assume all of it affects my adult life. An insignificant seeming change then could dramatically have affected the trajectory of my life. I wouldn’t change anything because it all is what led to me being what I am now.
Does that mean you absolutely love yourself in every way?
Yes. I’m absolutely flawless.
Anything else?
Well, now that borders on arrogance lol but I was going to say that that sure seemed like a healthy view, because there are certainly things I’d back and change if I could, even if it was mere exposure to certain ideas or my interpretation of them
I thought you were being a smartass - sorry about that.
No, there are thing I’d like to be otherwise but broadly speaking I’m satisfied where I am and I wouldn’t want to start tweaking anything because I can’t know the unforeseen consequences of it. This is good enough.
Sorry, I had vaguely felt like my sentence back there could get misinterpreted after I typed it, but I didn’t know how to word it in any other way, so I had just proceeded. Haha.
I can’t know the unforeseen consequences of it.
This is… amazingly insightful (even though we should already know about this through all the time-travel dramedies we see, lol, but I guess I just forget to apply it to my own life regrets)… What a great neutralizer of negativity. Thanks for the reminder…
All of them and none of them
The wise Jesuaurus has spoken.
I feel like so many of my days don’t actually contribute to the grander life narrative, myself - it’s a bit frustrating.
I know the solution though
Go on…
Less time playing video games, more time shaking up the routine. New tasks you don’t do regularly make the day feel longer.
