It can be linked to pain, loss and really sad things. What’s it like for you?

  • peregrin5@lemm.ee
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    22 days ago

    I’ve been no contact with my mom for over a decade now. She rejected me due to me being gay and still isn’t accepting. She’s very old school third world Orthodox Catholic.

    As for the day, it’s not too bad so long as I avoid ads and such trying to extract money from me for the event.

    I’ve come to peace with the fact that we will never have a relationship and honestly it’s better now than when we were in contact since even before knowing I was gay she was incredibly physically and emotionally abusive.

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      22 days ago

      I’m in a similar position so I can really relate. It’s horrible being rejected for being gay, and it’s totally wrong. You did great getting through all that.

      Have you seen [email protected] I go there when I need parenting or parental advice

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        22 days ago

        Thanks. I’m in my thirties now and don’t need a dad or mom (actually I’ve been pretty independent most of my life and never really expected anything from either of them).

        For the last couple of years though I have been in contact with my dad about once a year which is about as much as I can tolerate since he’s also a MAGA conservative Christian though just slightly more accepting of gay people since he was raised in Western culture unlike my mom (still thinks I’m going to hell though), and he reached out.

        As long as we can avoid politics or religion the chat is fine. He inevitably starts raving positively about Trump, defending rapists, or disparages trans people so that’s when I stop the conversation/visit.