Asking this as a Qatari with a polygamous father. My father’s second wife is Swedish and I know it was a tough pill to swallow for her family and friends back home.

  • myheadphoneson@reddthat.comOP
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    How does the risk of STIs increases when these are exclusive partners to you, not casual hookups? And the second part is solved by just having good time management and open, efficient communication.

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      The risk just increases with multiple partners, regardless of “exclusivity.”

      And no, the second does not get solved by time management and communication - you literally have less time to spend with each wife.

      Out of one year, if you have 100 hours to spend, a truly equal amount of time is 50/50. The man gets 100 hours of intimacy, but each wife is starved of those 50 hours. If you increase the amount of time you can spend to 200 hours, then an equal split is now 100/100 and each wife is starved of 100 hours of intimacy. There is no way to prevent this with multiple partners.

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            Betting on married partners being honest is peak ignorance or wishful thinking

            What a sad life you must have

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              It’s just opsec, dude. When other people’s lives are on the line, that’s how you have to think. Don’t be so judgemental.

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        But why exactly? The women only sleep with you, you only sleep with them. The only way I can see the risk increasing is if either you or them cheat, which at that point the cheating is the issue not the polygamy. It… quite literally does. Isn’t the whole of intimacy for all parties involved to feel satisfied and not neglected? Not all people have the same needs, or require the same amount of time be spent with them to feel satisfied and happy. Make sure everybody feels satisfied by openly talking about it.

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          Wow. So, you acknowledge that there is a chance of anyone cheating? Then the more partners you have, the more likelihood that one of them cheats.