“Hey, let’s meet up later today and do something fun!” Instant anxiety for the rest of the day. Plan changes are bad and worse if they are non-specific. There’s a reason I don’t cultivate friendships anymore.
Especially if you have one of those friends who invites you to do something, and then they “just have to do a thing real quick” and you end up going with them while they do a bunch of random chores in various places.
It would absolutelybe anxiety-inducing. But if they said so up-front it’d be less bad than my, deliberately keeping-it-vague, example. That said: I don’t want anyone that “just wanted to visit” and “shoot the shit” in my life. I want to plan social encounters at least a week in advance, longer is better.
“Hey, let’s meet up later today and do something fun!” Instant anxiety for the rest of the day. Plan changes are bad and worse if they are non-specific. There’s a reason I don’t cultivate friendships anymore.
Especially if you have one of those friends who invites you to do something, and then they “just have to do a thing real quick” and you end up going with them while they do a bunch of random chores in various places.
Maybe try to find people who are on the same page? What if someone just wanted to visit you and shoot the shit? Would that be anxiety inducing?
It would absolutelybe anxiety-inducing. But if they said so up-front it’d be less bad than my, deliberately keeping-it-vague, example. That said: I don’t want anyone that “just wanted to visit” and “shoot the shit” in my life. I want to plan social encounters at least a week in advance, longer is better.