Three, the maturity level is higher here. Reddit is the big name so it has all the teens. Lemmy leans toward older, more technical, less popularity focused people. There’s still plenty of silliness, but it’s not usually the same kind seen elsewhere. It’s a good thing.
This deserves a special highlight. The low-effort “insult-jokes” that get repeated on Reddit don’t fly here. Attacking people instead of their message goes directly against some community rules (a lot have a sidebar rule of “be civil” and repeated offenses do result in bans.) If somebody leaves a nasty comment, don’t engage - just click the button below their comment with three vertical dots, click “Create Report,” and comment the number of the rule being broken. We’re actively trying to avoid that particular aspect of Reddit toxicity here, so it’s better to report and move on rather than get dragged into the mire yourself.
Since we’re a smaller community, your posts and comments are more likely to get responses here. You will eventually start to recognize some names popping up over and again due to this. If you felt trepidation from seeing that you have a response on Reddit, you may find it slowly fading while being here. It’s really a breath of fresh air. I used to get anxious knowing I had responses on Reddit, knowing that 9 times out of 10 (pulling numbers out of my ass here) it would be someone coming in with an insult or a “gotcha.” But here, it’s usually a friendly response or a polite disagreement. The mods can be quick, too - one of the few times somebody replied to something of mine with a nasty comment, I never even saw it because the mods had already blocked the user by the time I checked my messages.
Speaking of messages, it’s important to note that due to the nature of the fediverse, they aren’t truly “private.” Not that they’re being shared publicly, but rather that federation across instances means even your messages go across multiple servers, not just to your intended recipient. (I’m not an expert on this, but this is my understanding. Others might have more information on how this all works.) So it’s smart to be careful what information you share, even in direct messages.
This deserves a special highlight. The low-effort “insult-jokes” that get repeated on Reddit don’t fly here. Attacking people instead of their message goes directly against some community rules (a lot have a sidebar rule of “be civil” and repeated offenses do result in bans.) If somebody leaves a nasty comment, don’t engage - just click the button below their comment with three vertical dots, click “Create Report,” and comment the number of the rule being broken. We’re actively trying to avoid that particular aspect of Reddit toxicity here, so it’s better to report and move on rather than get dragged into the mire yourself.
Since we’re a smaller community, your posts and comments are more likely to get responses here. You will eventually start to recognize some names popping up over and again due to this. If you felt trepidation from seeing that you have a response on Reddit, you may find it slowly fading while being here. It’s really a breath of fresh air. I used to get anxious knowing I had responses on Reddit, knowing that 9 times out of 10 (pulling numbers out of my ass here) it would be someone coming in with an insult or a “gotcha.” But here, it’s usually a friendly response or a polite disagreement. The mods can be quick, too - one of the few times somebody replied to something of mine with a nasty comment, I never even saw it because the mods had already blocked the user by the time I checked my messages.
Speaking of messages, it’s important to note that due to the nature of the fediverse, they aren’t truly “private.” Not that they’re being shared publicly, but rather that federation across instances means even your messages go across multiple servers, not just to your intended recipient. (I’m not an expert on this, but this is my understanding. Others might have more information on how this all works.) So it’s smart to be careful what information you share, even in direct messages.