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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • When you try to cut down on weed, you’re experiencing increased irritability due to withdrawal symptoms. Other symptoms of withdrawal include insomnia, anxiety, and headaches. If you want to get a handle on all this, I strongly recommend you try to stop the cannabis entirely. Try to stop for an entire month to get well past any withdrawal symptoms and see how you feel. You can always pick it up again later if you decide to, but you need to find yourself without it before you make that decision.

    Second, maybe consider finding a psychotherapist who specializes in dialectical behavior therapy. DBT will help you learn skills relating to emotional regulation, interpersonal effectiveness, and mindfulness (living in the present rather than rehashing the past), all of which are issues you describe having problems with.

    If you do DBT, you have to show up for it. You don’t roll your eyes, or say “this is stupid,” you do the work step by step until it’s done, and what you’ve learned and practiced by the end can help you change your life. Good luck to you and don’t hesitate to ask more questions




  • He said in the article:

    When hiring someone new, companies are forced to play in the open market, competing for top talent. But internally, they create opaque and informationally asymmetric compensation structures designed to minimize growth for existing employees to save the company’s bottom line.

    So yes, this is totally just how many (most) companies are run. I work in healthcare and have faced similar issues, where someone I hired as a new grad who accumulated 5 years of experience with me would be making $20K less than someone I just hired who had 5 years of experience somewhere else. I always had some words for anyone who tried to talk to me about retention rates






  • I’d like to echo everything Cagi said, and add that it’s genuinely possible this conversation with your brother was more of a “they finally got the diagnosis,” sort of conversation rather than a revelation for your brother, because everyone probably already suspected you have autism. It sounds like your mother is happy that you have clarity on this and wanted to share your good news.

    If I tell my mother something, it’s free game for her to tell anyone she knows about it, because she wants to tell other people what’s happening with her children. If I don’t want her sharing something about me, I could ask her explicitly not to share, and she won’t.

    Regarding your concern that your brother is going to think you’re no longer socializing with neurotypical people, you’re waaay overthinking that. You can call up your brother at any time to talk to him if you want to. Next time you want to go visit, almost guaranteed his door will be open for you and nothing will have changed.