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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • i have literally been waiting TWO FUCKING YEARS here in sweden, and now i’m finally getting referred to a private clinic in november, and then presumably i’ll get to actually go there sometime in december.

    wow golly fucking gee i wonder why people are killing themselves, what a mystery huh, man such a brain tickler.

    this is fiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiine, what society really needs is cheaper gasoline



  • i don’t get why they’d do stuff like that in general, you just… don’t fucking refer to living people in media that’s set in the future lol, precisely for this reason!

    it’s also kind of cringey to talking about currently living people because it feels like such a cheap grab at being relatable, “ooooo we’re talking about [person who is currently popular], that’s right, someone from your specific time period is relevant in the future!”

    the one way you can do it in a decent way is to have it be an offhand remark, and even then you better be quite certain that they’re not going to suddenly start lighting orphanages on fire 5 years after everyone’s seen your production.


  • The way i think about this is that it is an excuse, but it’s not an excuse to not try to work around it.
    We all do our best, and for some that really isn’t a lot and that’s FINE! But there are also probably ways you and others can find that enable you to do a whole lot more, which benefits everyone.

    As a really really concrete example: I simply do not have the mental energy to constantly take proper care of my teeth, so i don’t try to hold myself to that standard since it would eat away at me and make me fucking miserable.
    However i also don’t just give up, instead i do my best to brush when i have the energy for it, i take flouride pills to strengthen the teeth, i try to avoid sweets and stuff that harms dental health, and i literally just swish some water around my mouth every time i drink (this dislodges the food scraps and adds a little bit more flouride to the teeth).

    Yeah it’s not as good as properly brushing my teeth regularly with toothpaste, but it’s the best way i’ve found to take care of my teeth while still being mentally sustainable, and that’s all you can ask.


  • 100%, either outcome is positive: either i immediately learn that i want nothing to do with the person and that being around them would be detrimental to me, or they’re a decent person and can use the knowledge to make things easier for everyone.

    “hi, just so you know, i’m autistic and have ADHD so i’m going to be staring at everything BUT your face while doing weird stims, and my leg WILL be bouncing and i might need to take a break to just go outside and jump my excess energy away. just a heads up so you know what’s going on and that i’m not trying to make you uncomfortable, and i don’t need to feel miserable by trying to mask these things away which would inevitably lead to me avoiding you”


  • Why the fuck is that not a valid excuse? It can be impossible to find sufficient support and adjustments to enable yourself to reliably arrive on time, saying shit like this is a great way to make people who are already struggling feel even more worthless, jesus christ.

    Yeah sure, you can’t expect people to literally always be able to accomodate every struggle everyone may have, but to just summarily say “deal with it” is so heartless…