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Cake day: July 31st, 2023

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  • “The side that stays within its fortifications is beaten”

    Napoleon Bonaparte

    Not only do you need to strike at the enemy’s territories and hold it to win, you need to threaten to keep it if you want to restore your original borders. Going to the peace table with enemy cities your pocket is a classic way to negotiate for your own land back. The more Russian land the Ukranians take, the more likely we will see a restoration of old borders.



  • Overhearing people talk is not eavesdropping. Listening more closely because the conversation is a break in your trust is natural, if they try to pull a “but you were eavesdropping!” tell them if they want a private conversation then to have it in a private place, not a communal area in earshot of the hall outside your room.

    Did you make it clear this was confidential, or was it just assumed? If you explicitly told them to keep it secret and they did not, then say just what you said here. You happened to be coming down for a cup of tea when you overheard a betrayal of your confidence. If you are frustrated, let that give a backbone and set a firm boundary, but don’t let it put words in your mouth and start saying things that will make them defensive. As soon as someone puts their guard up, the conversation is not going to go anywhere productive.

    If you didn’t explicitly tell your mom this was to be kept under wraps for now, then lesson learned. You need to have a polite conversation with her and everyone she told that this is personal info not to be shared. Always explicitly set boundaries, assumptions never work, even doctors and therapists sometimes eff up and assume someone knows more than you want them to and spill the beans.

    No matter what, your family loves you and only wants you to succeed in life. Spilling your tea was likely done out of an effort to help you in the big picture, misguided or not. For me, once I was comfortable sharing my neurodivergence with my family, life got easier as they were able to take that into account in our relationship. But I understand it’s your call, and if you need to come to terms with your diagnosis first, that’s perfect reasonable and those in the loop should be made aware of how hurtful it is to betray that trust. Nothing a polite but firm conversation can’t solve.









  • Here in BC, wine is one of our biggest industries. Winter killed off 99% of our vines. They have been given money to replant and survive, but we might be looking at the end of a major industry if these cold snaps are going to be an annual thing. And it’s not like you can just replant and go on as normal, this will take multiple growing seasons to recover. These are some of the best spots for summer seasonal work and a big part of BC tourism, it could all evaporate.