Literally my parents.

  • kofe@lemmy.world
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    9 days ago

    Nah. Please do not blame yourself for being a child that didn’t have emotional regulation. Please hold parents to the bare minimum standard of providing modeling of it. Throwing shit or hitting you is not healthy modeling.

    • Majorllama@lemmy.world
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      9 days ago

      They did their best. Given the parents they both had honestly it’s a miracle that I was only abused the amount I was abused. I know that doesn’t give them a free pass on making parenting mistakes but it does give context for their emotional shortcomings as parents.

      I have grown to forgive them regardless of their mistakes in my youth.

      Can’t change the past but we can make changes for the collective future.